Many kids lack the positive interactions needed to understand the negativity that surrounds them. This lack of positive interaction produces feelings of depression, anxiety, and hopelessness. When young people feel this way, they hide, disengage, and have little opportunity of living up to their full potential.
In a post, I recently read, Why You Self-Sabotage Even Though You Know How Harmful It Is. The writer wrote, “For most of my life, I lived below my potential. I did so because my payoff was being able to cling to the identity of the “kid with potential.” I loved living in Potentialville. See, if I were to try hard, then I could run into the possibility of failing. Failing meant I’d no longer be talented and gifted. I’d no longer be the sharp kid with the whole world in front of him.”
I connected with this because it is me. I am still working hard to live up to my full potential. I realize this constant fight is keeping me from reaching it. I don’t see why the next generation should have to fight and battle against these silent demons when I have the experience to help them avoid it.
In my opinion, kids should learn to be confident because self-assured people positively engage with the world. Self-confident people tend to be happier and more successful. They can create a positive definition of success (see my last post), and that can only be a good thing if we want more people off the hamster wheel and engaged in life.
There are other reasons we want our next generation filled with confidence. Self-assured people are much more capable of being at their best when it counts the most, under pressure.
Self-confident people often motivate others more readily. This positive interaction helps others be at their best.
Self-confidence plays a big part in having greater autonomy and agency. You create a personal power by how you think, act, and carry yourself. People who are comfortable with who they are and where they are going can better positively influence society.
When you’re confident, you believe you have an important and meaningful place in the world, which gives you a positive attitude. This is a natural emotional antidote to anxiety and depression.
Confident people know their strengths and how they can contribute to those around them. Those with greater confidence have a sense of value and purpose. This sense of purpose can also create more freedom from self-doubt and negative/destructive thoughts about yourself. Becoming more comfortable just being yourself decreases your focus on what others might think of you. That’s liberating!
Adventure and exploration lay within confident people. They are more likely to step outside their comfort zone and take intelligent risks. This risk-taking can lead to deeper learning and growth. With an enhanced sense of confidence, you can boost your positive energy, giving you more motivation and active energy to achieve your personal and work goals and dreams. The more highly motivated and energized you are, the more likely you are to take on challenges.